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HAND’s 2018 Annual Letter

“Grief is like the ocean; it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” – Vicki Harrison

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Dear HAND Families-

Helping After Neonatal Death is closing its 35th year providing grief support services to families who have lost a child before, during, or shortly after birth. HAND is run exclusively by volunteers – all bereaved parents – in the Bay Area. HAND relies entirely on your support so grieving parents can receive our services for free.

Grieving Parents Need Our Help

According to a 2013 study by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, there are 600,000 annual miscarriages, 26,000 annual still births, and 18,000 infants who die before their first birthday. HAND alone received over 100 calls for help this year.

Service of Remembrance, October 7, 2018

HAND families gathered again on a beautiful Sunday afternoon at The Quinlan Center in Cupertino, to celebrate the memories of our precious babies. This gathering allows families to honor their child(ren) and to reconnect with old friends or make new ones with families who have experienced the loss of a baby.

Holiday Craft Night, December 6, 2018

We hosted a family craft night in December. The holidays can pose a harder time for those who are grieving. Our annual craft night gives families a time during the holiday season to join together and comfort one another.

“What HAND Means to Me”

We asked parents what HAND means to them, and here are some highlights:

“My baby’s death is still really fresh and the only support I have had is a phone call with a HAND volunteer. She was very helpful. I am still struggling, but I hope to use HAND more in the future to help me through my pain.”

“HAND is an awesome group of people who share a common life experience- being there to help, support and love.”

“HAND has been a great support and resource. It has been helpful to meet families with similar experience and to have a place to talk about our daughter.”


As we close 2018 we give thanks to our wonderful volunteers. If you are looking for a way to give back to HAND we are always in need of volunteers. We have not been able to resume our support groups in the Central Valley or East Bay as we had hoped to in 2018. We are also always in need of phone volunteer to field calls from bereaved families. Please reach out to us at info@handonline.org.

These are some of the ways you can help support HAND’s mission:

Volunteer time to support to families in need. There are small and big ways to help others, please contact us at info@handonline.org or 888-908-4263 if interested.

Provide a financial contribution to make it possible to offer HAND’s services and materials at no charge to newly-bereaved families.

Talk about HAND to others can be especially helpful, reminding people that pregnancy and infant loss is common, and that HAND is available to help.

YES, I want to continue to support HAND’s important work!

I wish you all a safe and happy 2019.


Kelly Symons, HAND President, 2018
Forever Remembering Hadley Avery Symons

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HAND Holiday Craft Night 2018

Please join us on Thursday, December 6th for our annual HAND Holiday Craft Night!

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Thursday, December 6, 2018 from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM PST


Mission Oaks Community Hospital (cafeteria)
15891 Los Gatos-Almaden Road
Los Gatos, CA 95032

HAND will provide craft materials for you to make a holiday keepsake or ornament to remember your angel child(ren) during the holidays.

Coffee and beverages will be provided by HAND, and guests are welcome to bring a dessert or appetizer to share.

Service of Remembrance 2018

Helping After Neonatal Death (HAND) invites you to come together with other families and celebrate the memories of your precious babies. The service will have music, poetry readings, and a potluck meal afterward where you can reconnect with old friends or make new ones with families who have experienced the loss of a baby. Families and friends are welcome to attend this memorial celebration.

HAND will provide beverages. Please bring a potluck dish to share.

We realize that after the loss of a child it can be painful to see other children. Please remember that the children present at the service have suffered the loss of a brother or sister or may be subsequent children. Parents who have children in attendance are very sensitive to the fact that there are newly-bereaved families present. We all attend the service for the same reason: to honor these special family members who have died.

For more event information email Kelly Symons at info@handonline.org

Sunday, October 7, 2018 ~ 1:00pm – 3:00pm
Quinlan Community Center – Cupertino Room
10185 N. Stelling Rd., Cupertino, CA 95014

Click here to RSVP

Please RSVP by September 4, 2018 to be included in our event program.

Make a Tax-Deductible Donation

HAND gratefully accepts donations from parents, friends, and family members in memory of a beloved child. To be included in the event program, please note the child’s name and “2018 Service of Remembrance” in the description or comments.

You can use your credit card to make a secure donation via PayPal. A PayPal account is not required to donate, but if you have an account, sign in to donate via PayPal.

There are also other ways to donate to HAND.

Directions to Quinlan Community Center – Cupertino Room

Directions from East Bay or South Bay
Take I-880 South toward San Jose. Merge onto I-280 North
toward San Francisco. Take the De Anza Boulevard exit, turn
left onto N. De Anza Blvd. Turn right onto Stevens Creek Blvd.
Turn right onto N. Stelling Rd. 10185 N. Stelling Rd. is on
the left

Directions from the Peninsula
Take 101/Bayshore Freeway heading South toward San Jose.
Merge onto CA-85 toward Cupertino/Santa Cruz. Take the
Stevens Creek Boulevard exit. Turn left onto Stevens Creek
Blvd., turn left onto Stelling Rd. 10185 N. Stelling Rd. is on
the left

HAND’S Annual Service of Remembrance

October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and each year HAND holds a Service of Remembrance in Northern California to provide families in the community with an opportunity to honor and celebrate their baby’s life.

The Service usually consists of music, parent poetry, a reading of our children’s names and keepsakes for families. Afterwards, there is a potluck which gives parents the chance to talk and spend time with other families who have experienced a similar loss.